In one of my recent conversations with a friend, I asked him, “how many times he feels genuinely happy in a month?” He thought for a while and said probably two to three times. My response to this wasn’t very different either.
This low level of happiness experience made us worried, and rightly so. We deserve to be happier oftener than that. I have been thinking since then, and after some reflection make the following suggestions:
Convert smile into laughter
An old friend recently shared a joke. It made me smile. First, I thought of sending a typical – LOL (laugh out loud) – response on WhatsApp. But then I called him and we had a good laugh together. This is one example. We can do anything like watching a funny movie, a comedy scene, or laughing over funny instances in our life. Do it as often as possible with family and friends.
Talk to close friends as often as possible
Spending time with close friends makes us happy but we don’t seem to find time for this. Keeping in touch through WhatsApp messages or Facebook gives us all a false sense of staying in touch. Don’t communicate through emoji signs. Talk as often as possible. Close friends may have moved to different places and would be busy with their lives. But they will welcome your call. And now we have several options to talk, including that of video calls. Make use of these. Talk with your close friends as often as possible.
Research shows that people who manage to maintain good relationships live longer, happier and healthier. Relationships are built on trust, care and consideration. True, you can’t erase the wrongs of the past but can certainly decide what to do next to improve your relationships.
Life is imperfect and full of bumpy roads. We come across people who make us unhappy, hurt us, and trouble us. We remain sad thinking about their behaviour towards us. We need to forget and forgive. We realize it or not, we feel happy when we forgive someone.
It might be a good idea to set up weekly happiness goals, which are nothing but a set of simple, doable tasks which make us happy. We certainly need to be happier than we are.