One key ingredient of a positive attitude is self esteem i.e. how a person feels about himself or herself. Once in the session on Self Esteem in the Opening Doors workshop, I shared that the value of a Rs 500 currency note remains Rs 500 no matter whether the note is new or old, kept neatly in wallet or dropped on ground and has been walked over by people. People still want it as the value of the note does not decrease. Similarly, we all face situations in life where we feel we haven’t got a fair deal. We face failures, setbacks and feel that we have been let down. What is important to remember in such testing times is that a) failures are part of life; and b) our value does not decrease (just like that of the currency note)in such moments/situations.
A young lady shared after the session that the currency note example changed her thinking completely. She confided that she had recently been divorced. She felt no body liked her or respected her. She felt as if she was a burden on her parents. She had a low self esteem. The example changed her thinking about herself. She said with a fresh zeal and commitment that from now onwards she will stop feeling worthless, and get on with her life. She was pursuing a professional course in Education, was to become a teacher and lead a respectful and dignified life. All she needed was to take a fresh look at her life, and drop the burden she was carrying of feeling worthless just because she was a divorcee. We can make a difference to our lives by changing the way we think or feel about ourselves.