Failures don’t reduce your worth

February 28, 2015

In an ice-breaking session of one of my training programmes, I asked participants to identify themselves either with an animal or with an object while introducing themselves. There were interesting answers and explanations but one answer stays with me till date.

A participant said, “I am like a tennis ball. I bounce back every time I am dropped on the ground.” Everyone applauded on such a positive attitude.

I wish we all develop such an attitude because failures and setbacks are part of life. Not getting a job despite several attempts, not getting admission in a university of one’s choice, not getting good marks in an exam, broken relationships etc. can shatter people. It is not easy to stay positive in such situations. But we must. There is no other option. Can we allow such instances- which will soon be forgotten any way – to affect us? The good news is that the day you achieve success, your previous failures are forgotten.

We need to find a way to deal with the such unpleasant moments of our life. The most important thing is that we should not let failures or rejections affect our self-esteem.

I would offer the following three tips:

1. Don’t take failure as a sign of some flaw in you.
2. Learn from the experience and try harder.
3. Tell yourself: The next opportunity will be better.

You may have failed any number of times but your real failure is when you stop making efforts. Bounce back like a tennis ball! Harder someone hits it, higher it goes.

Let me share the following to conclude this post:
“Life consists of two days, one for you and one against you. So when it’s for you don’t be proud or reckless, and when it’s against you be patient, for both days are test for you.”
― Hazrat Ali Ibn Abu-Talib A.S.