Bonding with Happiness

My first post of the year 2016 is an attempt to explore answers to the question: ‘What leads to happiness in life?’. I recently came across two studies on this subject. It was interesting to see the emergence of a common conclusion.

The first study — Can money buy you happiness? — tells us that beyond meeting the essential needs, money plays little role in making us happy. The study stresses that ‘feeling connected to loved ones’ is an essential ingredient of happiness.

To understand the second study, it is worth listening to Robert Waldinger on TED talks where he shares relevant insights on happiness, based on the Harvard Study of Adult Development. This seems to be the longest study on adult life. The study tracked lives of 724 men for 75 years— exploring answers to—’What keeps us healthy and happy as we go through life?’. Two groups of men were constantly studied from their teenage to their old age. The first group comprised Harvard College students; while the second comprised a group of boys from the poorest areas of Boston.

According to Robert Waldinger, “The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier.”

The connection between happiness and health comes out clearly. Robert said on TED talks, “The people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80.”photo

It is good to note that you don’t have to be rich to be happy. The poor and not-so-affluent can also be happy. In fact, they generally are!

The most important thing that enables us to keep good relationships is our ability to forgive. Many-a-time, by not forgiving, we let the opportunity to be happy pass us by. I would draw attention to a post I wrote in March last year, If you don’t forgive, you harm yourself.

Let’s pray that we learn to forget and forgive and keep alive the bonds with family and friends. All we need to do is to nurture and sustain relationships —happiness and health will follow suit.

 

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5 Responses to Bonding with Happiness

  1. Dilawar Ghadiali says:

    Yes Mr syed Afsar I do remember in your last article and open truth “IF YOU DONT FORGIVE YOU HARM YOURSELF “.
    Forget and forgive should be the part of our life.
    If things are broke you fixed it and don’t throw away. 35 years of my marriage still going strong on the same basis.
    Hope new generation follow the same.

  2. Masuma Jafri says:

    Wonderful and very insightful post to begin the New Year with. Thank you.

  3. tasweer says:

    Mr Afsar very nice workshop ,you taught the most difficult lessons of life in so simple way ,hats off to u

    • Syed Mohammad Afsar says:

      Dear Tasveer,
      Thank you for your kind comment. I am glad you found the workshop useful.
      Take care
      Afsar

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