New Year Resolution: Do make one!

December 29, 2016

The countdown to 2017 has begun. It is time to wish each other a happy new year; and make resolutions.

Making New Year Resolutions is an ancient tradition. Ancient Romans used to begin each year by making promises to Janus – the God after whom the month of January is named. Over time the concept evolved and the resolutions moved into the mould of self-improvement. Now, we find them in the arena of enhancing knowledge or skills (like learning a musical instrument, a new language etc.); doing things for family/improving relationships (like going on a family trip, spending time with children/parents, forgiving someone); and taking care of health (like quitting smoking, going for exercise to loose weight) etc.

A 2007 study from University of Boston found that 88% of the people who make New Year’s resolutions fail. Top two reasons for this are: setting unrealistic goals; and not keeping track of the progress.

Why should one make New Year’s Resolutions when they are more likely to fail?

The fear of failure should not stop us. There is an inherent element of failure in all plans. Isn’t it? A successful person is the one who sets realistic goals, makes plans to achieve them and executes them as best as possible. So, go head and do make a New Year’s Resolution for 2017. Instead of being overwhelmed by the majority, get inspiration from the 12% people who did succeed in achieving what they had resolved to do. Be with the achievers.

screen-shot-2016-12-29-at-10-01-41Make a new beginning. Don’t let the failures of past affect your determination to succeed. Forgive those how have hurt you. Forgiveness will not only improve relationships, it will free you of bitterness and negativity and you will be able to pursue your dreams with full energy.

I wish all a very happy and successful 2017. May it open new doors for you and bring peace in the world.

 

 

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Welcoming the Undercover Agent of Change

January 16, 2010

This is my first post of the New Year. I’d like to start by thanking all those who found time to read my blog in 2009 and all those who wrote insightful comments.

I wish the year 2010 opens the doors of success for all.

In the Opening Doors workshops, I often show participants a picture of a door that is slightly open and ask a question: Why is the door slightly open?

Interesting responses emerge indicating how success is perceived by people. I particularly enjoy interacting with youngsters. Their naïve responses come straight from the heart.

At one such workshop, a young girl replied, “The door to success is not closed on anyone”. At another workshop, a boy said, “We can get in if we try hard.”

That the door to success is not closed on anyone tells us to have faith – the prerequisite for success. We all CAN succeed in life. It’s all a matter of defining our goals. The boy’s response turns the spotlight on the role our efforts play in attaining goals. There is no substitute for hard work. We have to persevere to achieve our goals, overcoming hurdles on the way.

“Opportunities come and go. It is for us to tap them,” is the third recipe for success given by another young friend that I would like to elucidate. Success is all about making use of opportunities that come our way.

But if it is that simple, why do some of us miss that proverbial knock at the door? Well, Its’ because opportunities often come dressed as something else and we fail to see through the disguise. Let me explain: How often have we been asked to volunteer for an assignment beyond the framework of our regular activities – in our school/college days or in our workplaces. It may be a taking part in an extracurricular activity like theatre, sport, organizing an event, delivering a speech, making a presentation or taking on the additional work of an absent colleague or a vacant post? Some would respond to the assignments grudgingly, looking on them as a burden. Others may accept the new roles positively, and end up gaining new knowledge and even tapping their hidden talent. It is such people who have availed of the disguised opportunity (the knock that actually never discriminates between doors) which opened up a new world to them.

let’s conclude that the door to success is neither fully open nor closed. We need to develop the ability to identify the opening, and get in.

Have a great 2010 and pay heed to that knock at the door.